Monday, June 23, 2014

Hand-Made Spirituality: Seeing Through these First Nations Eyes

As I walked along downtown Ottawa last week, headed to the Byward Market, I stumbled upon a delight. Encased in tall wire fencing typically seen in construction areas, an Algonquin man named Paul, and an Ojibwe woman, showcased the lifestyle of First Nations ancestors.

As I walked through the opening, my eyes lifted to a tall tipi built on concrete city streets. Wrapped in white thick cloth, the tipi almost towered the permanent totem pole across the street.

“We start with three sticks, tie them together and then add another stick. We tie that together and then then continue adding one stick at a time, tying each one,” said Paul on the construction of the tipi. Above the entrance hung a hand drum with a black outline of the sun's rays. Inside the sun was a duck flapping its wings in water. Paul crafted hand drums.

He showed me how he used branches of the ash tree. This pliable wood was soaked in water until the wood separated into sections. If you needed the wood to be thinner, you would use a hand made mallet, with a rock strung to the top, to pound the wood and then soak it back in the water. When the wood strips were thin enough, you peeled a section and bent it into a circle. This was the rim of the hand drum. Hide was then used for the cover.

These pieces of soaked wood had many uses including basket making, snow shoes, wares, and more. He also used the wood along with cedar and more to form his nation's hut – a wigwam. While a tipi is spectacular in size, a wigwam is a mind-bending, wood-bending feat. Wood and hide are made pliable through techniques developed over hundreds of years. While a tipi would take Paul only forty-five minutes to assemble, this oval shaped house would take longer. While a tipi was easier to take down and transport, a wigwam would be far more difficult to disassemble and travel with.

The goal of this duo was to promote an upcoming First Nations celebration and keep their cultures alive through education.

“We travel all over the world teaching people. I try to gather supplies where I am going so I don't have to take them with me.”

Keeping their traditions alive is important not only among their own people, but to share the remarkable beauty of the First Nations with everyone. They teach children. They mesmerize adults. They hold workshops on how to craft these magnificently complex structures and essentials using what grows in nature. The spiritual aspect, however, is kept sacred. It is kept private. “That is only for us.”

I myself have had a draw to Native cultures. I have past life memories even. I have searched for, yearned for, and prayed for learning about the spiritual practices of these cultures. However, very few it seems are willing to share. In my youth, I may not have accepted Paul's answer. However, that overcast day standing with him on the middle of the street, I understood.

Last night, I read an interpretation by Swami Satchidanada on a slokah in his book, The Living Gita. He shared a story about a man who went to a roshi (teacher) to learn. The roshi poured tea into a cup, continuing even after it flowed over. The roshi  said how when one's cup is full, one cannot accept any teaching. One needed to be an empty vessel for knowledge to be poured into.

Perhaps my cup was empty that day. I easily accepted what Paul shared. It was not my place to ask for more, to tap into their sacred beliefs that they needed to keep within their culture. After all, here they were, giving of themselves freely to share the history and skills of their people. Paul said he was a simple man who worked with his hands. I believe he is much more than that. He is a humble teacher.

My husband recently shared how ethnic tourism is a latest growing trend. People flock to various cultures to see their history, how their food was cooked like pouring vegetables into bamboo sticks and steaming them over an open fire. Cultures wanting to pass their knowledge on, to keep themselves alive in history, have found willing students. And while these students may been looking at first glance at the entertainment of it all, these cultures know that they will go back home and share their stories. About how one tribe learned how to steam food in the bamboo around them. About how another one made pottery by hand and inscribed their life story into the pot. About how another one learned to sew from her grandmother who was taught by her grandmother and so on.

The power of sharing life skills is spiritual in itself. We see the working hands of Paul make a hand drum that echoes the sound of someones heart beat. 

Friday, June 20, 2014

Tonglen Meditation: Walking Through the Fire for Compassion

When it comes to meditating on compassion for others, we often think of the Metta Meditation, also known as Loving Kindness Meditation. In this meditation, we focus one by one on a respected person we know, a loved one, a neutral person we do not know well, and a person that challenges us. In our meditation, we focus on sending that person loving, compassionate thoughts and energy. Mantras used are “May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and at ease.” The object of the words changes as you move through the meditation.

Similarly, the mantra Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu - “May all beings everywhere be happy and free, and may the thoughts, words and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all,” does the same by wishing all beings everywhere happiness and peace. This mantra can also be used in meditation.

In Wednesday's meditation class, we practiced another compassionate inducing meditation – Tonglen. In Tonglen, we receive and send loving-kindness. This practice, used in Tibetan Buddhism and practiced by His Holiness, The Dalai Lama, taps into the bodhicitta (the enlightened mind).

Tonglen can seem like burning in a fire opposed to the light feeling that arises in a typical Loving Kindness Meditation. The practice takes on the suffering of ourselves and others to transform it into something beautifully powerful. To practice one moves through the following steps:
  • Begin by focusing on the breath, bringing all mindfulness to the breath
  • Feel comfortable in the space you are in, feeling protected and safe
  • Bring your awareness to your bodhicitta (the enlightened mind) – you do not need to understand what it is, but become aware of a lightness that lives inside of you, aware and wise beyond your rational mind. Find peace in this feeling.
  • Next breathe in smoke or darkness and exhale light and joy. You become a recycling machine for converting energy.
  • You then focus on yourself. Feel any painful memories or emotions you have. As you exhale, you send yourself compassion.
  • Then move your thoughts to someone you feel challenged by, past or present. Breathe in knowing they suffer. Exhale sending them compassion and love. You can even, without too much thought, think of what they need not to suffer, and exhale sending it to them.
  • You may move onto doing this for several others if you choose.
  • Next, you bring your awareness back to your breath until your mind fills with thoughts.
  • Finally, you take deep refreshing, cleansing breaths in and out.

Like other meditations, the words and practice can vary, but the concept is the same. Transforming pain to loving, compassion. Many people find difficulty in “praying” for those that hurt them. Instead, they would rather that person feel pain and suffering. However, pain only begets pain whereas love begets love.

This healing technique is in direct contradiction to what many energy healers would practice. Many healers I know would avoid “taking on” the pain of others. They would do a ritual to protect themselves from absorbing the “stuff” others carry with them.

Several years ago, I met such a practitioner who literally yelled at me for the way I did my Reiki sessions. Because of my empathic nature, I can feel the hurt in others. I would draw this out of them through me and then visualize myself putting it into a magical trashcan in the stars where the universe could recycle it for me. I was told this was wrong. I needed to protect myself. Needless to say, I never listened.

Once at a festival in southern York County, a woman came to me to my tent where I was offering Reiki. “Would you do Reiki on me?” she asked desperately.
“Yes,” I replied.
“Are you sure? Would you do Reiki for me?” she asked again.
“Of course!”
“Feel me first and tell me,” she said implying I tune into her energy. It was intense, but that didn't mean anything to me in terms of declining. It was her energy. Every person is different.

After telling her yes once more, she told me how she had a near death experience that made her energy very intense. She was once a “regular” person and now could communicate with the other side and angels. A booth just yards from where I was at the festival had declined her because of how her energy felt.

I once had a teacher, who despite folklore, vigorously tapped tingshas together. Tingshas should only be struck three times a day between the first day of Autumn and the last day of winter or else you would have the wrath of the King of the Nagas on you for having awoken him from his slumber. The liberal teacher rung the tingshas over and over again without a care saying “I believe in the intention. If I believe nothing will happen to me, nothing will.” I loved my liberal teacher.

What I love is that while doing the Tonglen Meditation you are defying all the rules. That's the rebellious part of me. You are holding the belief that while you are bringing in the suffering of others, you have the ability to help transform their suffering into joy. You have the ability to transform your own pain into something beautiful. The intention of transformation pulls you through.

As a healer, I have to remember that healing others and not taking care of myself is a pitfall. I could so easily take on the pain of others and healing them for a personal gratification. Instead, I have to remember that I am also a pebble tossed into the river. I must also allow myself time to heal and transform. Getting tied to the outcome of whether I helped or not, is not the goal. Whether I helped them transcend pain or get a hug, is not what it is all about. That's the side benefit. The true accomplishment comes to wanting to heal someone who has hurt me, rather than harm them. To love myself enough to want to love myself, instead of beating myself up in my mind. That is the power of Tonglen. To walk through the fire of hate and find love instead.